By Megan Kirk, New Pittsburgh Courier
The dating game is full of wins and losses for singles. In a world full of smoke and mirrors, it can be hard to find a significant other who has the same plans and goals. However, for those who have come across a partner they want to get serious with, there are a few telltale signs to display to show your significant other it’s time to up the ante.
After so long, singles get exhausted playing the field and look toward a more permanent relationship. Flings can prove to be taxing and sneaky links are only good for the night. If there are thoughts about getting serious, here are some signs that the relationship may be destined for greatness.
Commitment has crossed your mind: have you stopped responding to texts of former lovers? Are you no longer impressed by DMs full of compliments and come-ons? Can you see yourself spending more time with your current partner? If the answer is yes to any of these, then commitment has likely crossed your mind. Although it is a big step, committing to one person allows the relationship to begin to grow deeper. Creating space for emotional, physical and mental intimacy to reside, commitment is a display of contentment and is the perfect recipe for a serious relationship.
Increased Time Spent: when one is simply playing the field, spacing your time out between dates and partners is essential to maintaining a level of aloofness. However, when time spent begins to increase and the desire to share space with one particular partner begins to manifest, a closeness can form. This newly discovered bond allows partners to dig a little deeper and ask questions about the future of their relationship. Now, before you go and buy matching ring sets an increase in time spent is just one sign that your partner could be ready for the same level of seriousness and intimacy. An increase in face-to-face time shows an enjoyment of the company and the potential to grow together. Family and friends: to show you’re serious about your partner, it may be a good idea to introduce them to your friends and family. Friends and family are able to look at partners through lenses that are not glazed over by love or lust. Family and friends will be able to give a genuine account of their first impression of your partner and may even be able to get answers to questions that have crossed your mind. Friends and family are a coveted group of people and if introductions are in order, a serious dating future may be as well. For the partner, meeting friends and family will also give an inside look into your date and their family structure, which could potentially provide insight into their behaviors and thoughts. You may also get a kick out of seeing embarrassing childhood photos.
Comfort levels: some singles are able to enter into any situation and be 100 percent themselves. Others reserve the truly embarrassing moments for when they feel comfortable around their partner. Typically, when you first begin to date, both parties put their best foot forward to impress one another. When the need to impress has gone out of the window, a level of comfort settles in and partners are able to be their individual selves. In these moments, vulnerability is able to take place and partners may see each other go through private emotions, thoughts, life situations. Comfort levels may extend to bathroom business as well.
Talks about the future: Whether dating for a short period of time or for much longer, talks about the future are a guaranteed sign that your partner has plans. It could be a couple’s trip, a family vacation, a concert that is six months away or even talks about marriage. Conversations about the future are bound to happen with someone with whom you intend to have a future.
For both men and women in search of a fulfilling relationship, remember each person will display their desires in a different way. However, if any of these tips sound like you, delete that dating app and get ready to go on the ride of a lifetime.
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