Special to the AFRO
The upcoming holiday season can amplify the pressure to be in a relationship. Some people might choose to stay in toxic relationships, merely for the sake of not being alone during festivities. The societal expectation to have a plus one for family gatherings and holiday parties can be overwhelming. However, I’ve come to realize that succumbing to this pressure and settling for less than I deserve is a disservice to myself.
As a single, professional, African American woman navigating the labyrinth of modern dating, I find myself standing firm on the principle of not settling for anything less than authentic, fulfilling love. The journey has been enlightening, filled with moments of introspection, and a fair share of humorous anecdotes that underscore the importance of holding true to one’s values in the quest for a meaningful relationship.
In the realm of relationships, the terms “compromise” and “settle” often get entangled, but there’s a crucial distinction.
ERICA ALSTON BUCK
In the realm of relationships, the terms “compromise” and “settle” often get entangled, but there’s a crucial distinction. Compromise involves finding common ground, a middle point where both partners contribute to the well-being of the relationship. Settling, on the other hand, implies accepting less than what you deserve, sacrificing your core beliefs or values for the sake of companionship. It’s a compromise that chips away at your authenticity, leaving you with a relationship built on shaky foundations.
In the pursuit of love, it’s tempting to make choices that prioritize the happiness of others, even if it means compromising our core principles. I’ve learned the hard way that this approach often leads to internal conflicts and a sense of self-betrayal. As we age, the desire for a genuine connection becomes even more pronounced. It’s essential to stand firm in our beliefs, refusing to compromise on the fundamentals that define who we are.
Approaching the dating scene while remaining true to myself, I’ve learned to navigate through the sea of potential partners with grace and self-assurance. As I aim to find my forever person, I’ve made a conscious decision not to compromise on my values or settle for a relationship that doesn’t contribute positively to my life. After all, honesty is the best medicine, especially when faced with the challenges of modern romance.
It’s crucial to acknowledge that being alone is not synonymous with loneliness. Choosing to prioritize self-love and personal happiness over the societal expectations of being in a relationship has been liberating. I’ve discovered the joy of my own company, relishing in the freedom to be unapologetically me. Rather than settling for companionship that doesn’t add value to my life, I’ve embraced the idea that being alone can be an empowering choice.
Still Single in the City, the journey to find love doesn’t come with a set timeline or a one-size-fits-all approach. As a woman navigating the complexities of modern dating, I’ve learned that settling for less is not an option. It’s about finding that delicate balance between compromise and authenticity, refusing to let societal pressures dictate my choices.
This holiday season, choose the gift of self-love, confident that in due time, the right person will come into your life without compromising your values, boundaries, your happiness or authenticity.
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